I will be making one of the hardest decisions ever. I just hope husband understands where I am coming from. Or may he enlighten me to do the right decision should I am making the wrong one.
One day, the father of a very wealthy family took his son on a trip to the country with the express purpose of showing him how poor people live. They spent a couple of days and nights on the farm of what would be considered a very poor family.
“It was great, Dad.”
“Did you see how poor people live?” the father asked.
“Oh yeah,” said the son.
“So, tell me, what did you learn from the trip?” asked the father.
The son answered: “I saw that we have one dog and they had four. We have a pool that reaches to the middle of our garden and they have a creek that has no end. We have imported lanterns in our garden and they have the stars at night. Our patio reaches to the front yard and they have the whole horizon.
“We have a small piece of land to live on and they have fields that go beyond our sight.
“We have servants who serve us, but they serve others. We buy our food, but they grow theirs.
“We have walls around our property to protect us, they have friends to protect them.”
Then his son added, “Thanks Dad for showing me how poor we are.”
The Poor Family
I have noticed that since our Second Son transferred to a new school, he somehow became conceited. Or perhaps my mom spoils him so much that she even bought him shoes worth P12,000.00 a pair. And every time they go out, my son brings home new and branded shirts and pants. I have already mentioned to my mother to stop spoiling the boys.
I could see that unlike his two other brothers, our Second Son can’t handle wealth that much. It affected his dealings with his classmates and even bullied one. That bullying caused him to be kicked off the honors roll.
I plan to transfer him to the school where he studied elementary. It is a small Montessori near our place but it provided great foundation to the boys. The tuition is way more affordable compared to the all-boys school where he attended grade 7. He is an incoming grade 8 stude this school year.
I would want my boys to see that life is not all bed of roses. We have failed to guide our Second Son that and the only way I am seeing to correct that is let him go back to the humble life he had once. Husband disagreed. Even my boy didn’t approve of my decision. He didnt tell me, though, but his actions speak so loudly.
Wealth can be a blessing or a curse. Some people can handle wealth, while others easily got overwhelmed. Sadly for our Second Son, he just can’t handle everything on his plate.
The humble life
We are not rich. We struggle most of the time. My mom though, who still works big time, can afford to buy anthing the boys desire. She has a company and the bank account. And though I have told her a lot of times not to spoil my boys, she keeps on providing their needs and wants. Now, I am having problems with my Second Son.
Should I bring my son back to a more humble environment?
Devoted. Compassionate, Instinctive. Berlin loves to write personal narratives, thrilling discoveries, and mommy tips that make daily living the happiest. She shares the small house with her husband and their five boys.