The Essentials of Self-Mastery

Jul 12, 2018 | Life, Links, Only Berlin

MOMI MUSINGS:  Finding life’s purpose and happiness through enriching self

The Essentials of Self-Mastery

[tweetshareinline tweet=”Are you happy with your life?” username=”IfZgcz8ZKo14VSCu3y8ejhrBGaCG*R!N:1:0″]I asked this to myself one time. It was a year after I resigned from work. I didn’t know what I would want in my life. Or I just denied myself from knowing. All along, everything was clear. I just needed to accept and live the life met for me.

But how would I Know it is the right path?

The Right Path


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My husband would always remind me of those words. So every day, I cook food for my boys, clean the house, and support their every hobby and wishes. But there are times I would just feel self-pity. I would look at myself in the mirror, and I know the reflection staring at me isn’t truly happy.

Perhaps, I am not doing everything that leads to love.

I forgot to think of myself. Though serving my family brings fulfillment, I have realized that I also need to enrich myself.


The Need to Enrich Self


[tweetshare tweet=”Ordinary riches can be stolen, real riches cannot. In your soul are infinitely precious things that cannot be taken from you. Oscar Wilde” username=”IfZgcz8ZKo14VSCu3y8ejhrBGaCG*R!N:1:0″]If I want to find peace, I need to start with myself.

What do I mean? Let me tell you my story.

I am married for 13 years at that time and after many years of contemplating, I finally resigned and stayed as a fulltime mom. I was utterly absorbed in every school activity, hobby, and just anything my three boys did. At first, those things kept me busy. Until one day, one by one, my boys seemed do not need their mom anymore. There were also times they showed they can decide for themselves and even disregarded some of my advice.

I stayed, hanging on to every little thing my boys did. I believed being with them would make me feel fulfilled. Then I’ve realized, I depended on my happiness exclusively to my children.

Then I felt dissatisfaction. I began to see the flaws in our family. There was a time I resent my husband for giving the life I was living at that time. I felt so empty, almost helpless.


Finding Self and Life’s Purpose


I looked further and started doing things that would fill the void. I went back to writing. It opened doors to new opportunities and realization.

Then I see myself smiling again. I have come to realize that happiness cannot be found in others. This mother needs to look inside herself to find it. It was a long process. I still feel disappointment at times, but somehow, I know I am at peace with myself. I always keep in mind my purpose, and that is to be a wife to my husband and a mother to my boys. However, I also have myself to take care of and a small community of moms, too, who somehow find inspiration from my narratives and prose.

Understanding life can be pretty scary. It is because we sometimes know the answer and yet we still let ourselves be confined in our comfort zone. It helps that we have peers to help us grasp we are our own individuality. That to serve more, we need to enrich ourselves first.


The Essentials of Self-Mastery


Timely that I found an enriching seminar worth my time, and surely worth yours, too. It is “The Essentials of Self-Mastery.” It is a life, and career enrichment talk brought to us by Great Learnings & Beyond.

As I checked the line-up of topics, each highlights vital elements that would help you and me understand ourselves better and eventually our career, our circle, and the community we belong. The speakers themselves have high qualifications and hold senior posts in known organizations.

I see myself occupying one of the seats at the talk this August 4 at the REAP Center in Quezon City. I am ready to learn and discover more about what I can do and offer.

The Essentials of Self-Mastery

The Essentials of Self-Mastery

If you believe you need this in your life and career, let us see each other there!


Reserve your seats now by filling out the link here.


  1. Amber

    This does sound like a great seminar. I might have to check it out.

  2. Corinne (@WhatCorinneDid)

    This sounds like a great seminar! i am sure you learn a lot! Self-mastery is so important on so many levels!

  3. liveloveandadventure

    The hardest part of my life was when my kids grew up and moved out and didn’t need me anymore. It was a really rough transition. The key is to find things to do that make you happy. New hobbies to explore, a class to take. For me, I learned to scuba dive at age 52 and now I have new friends, a great hobby and the most amazing travel experiences.

  4. KittysLife

    Interesting… I need to check this out 🙂 My kids are still babies and I really have no idea how it would be down the lane in future 🙂 I love to do what make me happy all the time 🙂

  5. Emma Riley

    Great article where everyone can relate. I loved this post it helps us to be motivated and determined in whatever we’re doing. It helps us to boost our self confidence. Thank you for sharing this to us.

  6. Olga Zak

    This article is very interesting. It is very inspiring. Thanks for sharing this.

  7. Charli B

    Sounds like a great seminar. My daughter is a teenager now and I have really started to feel over the last year or so that she doesn’t need me, it made me feel a little lost for a while but we are slowly finding our groove now x

  8. sara

    You cannot fully help others until you first help yourself.

  9. natalielovesbeauty

    This talk sounds amazing! I know there are still areas I can tap into and this sounds like an amazing way to learn how to do so.

  10. Shabby Chic Boho (@terrishutterbug)

    This sounds like a seminar that is going to be a memorable occasion. It’s always important that we take care of ourselves by doing what we love and feel driven to do.

  11. Nadine Richardson

    Never really thought to take a journey of self mastery. But it seem aligned with the path I am on now. Definitely going to take deep look into this subject. Very valuable and inspiring post.

  12. The Mad Mommy

    That makes everything seem so easy, but it’s not. Sounds link interesting seminar!

  13. Renée ♥

    This sounds like a good seminar for finding direction fo the next turn in the road. I think always having one eye on the horizon has help me keep on course and find purpose as our life-situation evolves.

  14. Harish

    Thanks for letting us know about that great event. It’s really great.

  15. lavandamichelle

    What a wonderful post! This seminar seems like a great way to help yourself. Thanks for sharing! 🙂

  16. bestiesnotepad

    This is such an inspiring post. I could relate at so many points. Well written.

  17. Edward

    Self motivation is the essence of this post. I have to agree with. We need to save something for ourselves. I my self had gone through alot. I had to turn my back to people who didnt give importance to whay I’ve done. Kinda gave me a depression for a short period time. We all need a quality time to pick up the pieces and make ourselves whole again. This is a remarkable post.



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