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About three weeks, I turned my back to my husband. He was somehow obliging some things I could not easily deliver given the two toddlers I always look after. Not to mention, I have three school boys to take care of and a house to manage. So instead of answering back, I went out and bought pandesal. It was an opportunity for me to walk, catch some fresh air, and brush off any negative thoughts.
Husband was quite in the mood to pick a fight. He messaged me, accusing me that I was running away from any confrontation. I messaged back that “I am not running. There is no reason to argue with you. I don’t want us to fight; thus I left.”
After a few hours, I got a message from him again.
Real motherhood is messy
As husband feels the pressure of providing for his family, he must have forgotten I am also in constant pressure in taking care of our five boys, our house, and other things. I might be so good at hiding my exhaustion and frustration that he might have thought I am living an easy life. But the reality is, I believe many moms like me are constantly under pressure. I, too, sometimes expect myself to be perfect in taking care of my kids. Having been a homemaker for quite some time, I must already know how to keep everything perfectly neat and tidy.
But the reality is, [tweetshareinline tweet=”real motherhood is messy.” username=”IfZgcz8ZKo14VSCu3y8ejhrBGaCG*R!N:1:0″] And moms should be free of this crazy standard – because just getting the mom job done is hard enough.
Tang pays tribute to real moms
Tang Salutes #RealMomsGetItDone
There is one brand that sees and understands what moms go through. As a brand that champions Filipino moms, Tang pays tribute to all mothers. The brand empowers us, moms, to be real and to embrace the beauty of motherhood despite its mess and imperfection. Tang believes it is more important that moms stay true to themselves and are proud of their unique way of parenting. After all, parents know what is best for their children.
[tweetshareinline tweet=”As there’s nothing wrong with wanting everything to be perfect, sometimes, it is what hinders and pressures moms to give their best.” username=”IfZgcz8ZKo14VSCu3y8ejhrBGaCG*R!N:1:0″] [tweetshareinline tweet=”Those picture perfect Instagram and Facebook posts may seem too perfect, but behind those are messy realities, too.” username=”IfZgcz8ZKo14VSCu3y8ejhrBGaCG*R!N:1:0″]
I recently attended an event and met Tang Ambassador Saab Magalona – Bacarro. She shared one advice to moms who feel the pressure of being perfect. “There’s no such thing as perfect, and you have to remember not to compare yourself to what you see online and to other moms. Some people wanna post what looks good and perfect online, but behind those are realities not captured online.”
Tang Salutes #RealMomsGetItDone
#RealMomsGetItDone
I love what Tang would want to share. Motherhood has evolved, and it’s not picture-perfect. We must embrace the fact that there will be cracks along the way and that’s okay.
Furthermore, Tang encourages moms to break free from the pressure of perfection – just be real and get things done. To further stress this, the brand created a #RealMomsGetItDone photo series that highlights the contrast between the expectations and realities of motherhood. It celebrates real and unfiltered motherhood and aims to empower moms to be themselves. The gallery was mounted at Glorietta 2 Activity Center last March 27, featuring real moms. A few of these real moms are Saab Magalona-Bacarro, Delamar Arias, Rosebud Benitez, Janice Villanueva, Anne Clutz, and Nicole Hernandez-de Los Angeles.
[tweetshare tweet=”Don’t compare yourself to other moms. We are all losing our shit. Some women just hide it better than others.” username=”IfZgcz8ZKo14VSCu3y8ejhrBGaCG*R!N:1:0″] (read this somewhere)
I would want to end this narrative with something I learned from the event. [tweetshareinline tweet=”Allow yourself to celebrate motherhood minus the filter.” username=”IfZgcz8ZKo14VSCu3y8ejhrBGaCG*R!N:1:0″] Welcome the messiness and imperfections of motherhood. That despite the tough responsibilities and mess that comes with being a mother, we get the job done. So again, it is okay to fall; just know when and how to stand up. It is fine to get tired and cry the same as forget to give the kids their vitamins or let the sink full of dirty dishes. [tweetshareinline tweet=”Remember, despite all the failure, mess, and shortcoming, real moms get it done.” username=”IfZgcz8ZKo14VSCu3y8ejhrBGaCG*R!N:1:0″]
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Oh yes, I am proud of my way of parenting. Hindi ko hinayaan na madiktahan ako ng ibang nanay sa paligid ko who thinks they know better or they know everything. *rolls eyes* lol
And also, you said it accurate momi Berlin, real motherhood is messy…. to the point na it is literally messy sometimes. And the struggle is real! Kala lang ng iba easy life lang tayo kasi nasa bahay tayo. But omg no! But i’ll cut it right there. Hanggang “no” lang ako. No futher explanation hehe.
#RealMomsGetItDone
Good morning Momi. Yes! Real mom gets it done! I am a working mom at weekdays and Student mom every sunday. Saturday lang ang time ko magpahinga at para kay baby, but then despite of my busy schedule, nagagawa ko pa din tapusin ang mga gawaing bahay without the help of my husband. Maybe God is helping me talaga by giving me enough energy everyday.
Mabuhay tayo mga ina momshie..
yes mommy never compare yourself to anyone because we are different in our own ways. just let God enter in our lives and hearts and you’ll find true happiness!
I LOVE this. Real motherhood isn’t a Pinterest board or a TV show. It’s messy. We lose our temper. We let them get away with stuff. We slack on cleaning. We hang on by a fingernail sometimes. BUT we always do it with love.
I’m not a mom and I wonder if I’ll ever be and yet I love to read the experiences and the sharing of those who are!
I don’t have kids so i can only imagine how tough it must be. It’s got to be a ton of hard work.
I can’t imagine how hard that must be.
I have a friend who has a one year old toddler and she is the one doing all the housework whilst taking care of the kid. She has no life whilst her husband brushes her off to go and pursue his hobbies. It’s so sad seeing how he doesn’t help at all and I am feeling so sorry for her. I always tell her to just leave the child with him and go somewhere, do something she likes for 2 hours. But she never does.
so true! mommy life is hard work but it is one of the most rewarding experiences every
Mommy job is the most challenging job ever, a job you cannot call it quit even if you are so tired and stressful. Hope all mommy in the world enjoy this job no matter good and bad moment. Embrace this beautiful task given by the god.
The expectation compared to reality can be quite different and that makes it a challenge. Taking on the task of caring for a family is a big one. One to be applauded.
Motherhood is so challenging at times. It is so nice to see brands such as Tang supporting mothers.
This motherhood malarkey can be hardcore! But it is so so rewarding. I think if you stay true to yourself and be proud of everything you achieve each day then you can’t go far wrong 🙂
It must be hard indeed.. Good luck babe you rock
I’ve never heard of Tang before, but yes, motherhood’s messy and challenging! Really great post!
Looks like a great experience and opportunity. I have never heard of Tang before, now I am all ears!
I am all about celebrating amazing women, especially mothers in all their efforts. What a wonderful post highlighting amazing moms.
Nice reading your motherhood guide about the way to manage the trials and tribulations.
Such a great post and gentle reminder that not everything is perfect like we see on IG.
Being a Mom is so hard… but so rewarding as well. It’s something I never imagined.
I love this and how it reminds us how great every mom is. Such a great tribute. Hope there are many participants that will encourage everyone to join an event like this.
Motherhood is one of the most challenging things I’ve ever done. It’s also the most rewarding and meaningful! This is a great blog post.
Yes I agree. There is no perfect mom and there are no manual on how to be a Supermom. Being a parent is really challenging but very fulfilling.
Love this post so much! You’re a strong woman and a great mother. You’re doing so good by sharing your journey of motherhood and being a wife!
I agree. Real mom life is messy and hard work. I am wearing so many hats my head is spinning.
I totally agree with this post mom. Never compared your self to anyone, we know what’s good or bad to our children. Such a great point.
Loved reading your post. I am raising 2 girls – teenager and pretween if that’s a word. It is a hard work with lot of sweat & blood involved. And the worst part is that there is no inebriate guide book for all.
True momshie .. i salute all the mother’s .. is also proud as a mother ..di ganun kadali Ang maging isang in Lalo na pag ikaw lahat gagawa Ng gawaing bahay while taking care of your baby ..