Studies reveal that parents who express frequent anger in front of their kids may result in having more aggressive and depressed children. Violence has such a negative effect on children that may affect how they see their parents, the world, and even themselves. Do not let your frustration and lousy mood change how your kid adapts to the world. Manage your anger and practice being a calm parent. How to? Momi Berlin gives you a rundown.
Take care of yourself
Having a well-rested mind and body often helps one face life’s challenges in a calm manner. It is prudent then that as a parent, you pamper yourself once in a while.
Jog or run in the morning and indulge in a full body massage, for instance. Listen to calm music or bake or do whatever makes you happy and at peace. Do not also overdo everything and build yourself overtired. Take care of yourself the same way you take care of your family or career.
Control your anger before it controls you. Take the challenge and be mindful about it. It may help if you hold on to a mantra; something like “I am not going to let anything negative ruin me and my day.”
Winning over this makes you triumphant in handling life’s everyday frustrations. You grow each day calmer, more relaxed, and more collected giving anger no window to ruin your day.
Breathe and lock yourself
When you feel yourself starting to react and know you will soon regret it, breathe first and isolate yourself. Go to your room, close the door, and sit down or lay flat in the bed. The idea is for you to distance yourself from whatever is causing your anger until you recover and feel peace within you.
Own it and move on
There would be times you just gave in to the temptation. You shouted at your kid and just had a meltdown. Own up to what you’ve done wrong. Say something like “I was disappointed at your actions. Please do not do something like that again. I reacted indifferently as well, and I am sorry for that.”
Do not overdo the apology. Do not overdo the sermon as well. Just say your piece straight to the point but with empathy and then move on.
Surround yourself with positive vibes and quotes
If it would help, keep inspirational quotes within easy reach or reading. Print out some sayings and pin them at your work station or around your house. The idea is for these sayings to help you remember to keep calm and never waste your entire day being angry over bad moments or news. Sooner than later, you will get used to these inspirational quotes. Your brain will help you recite them every time something terrible happens.
Separate your emotions from others
Your husband is shouting at the top of his lungs. He is furious, but this doesn’t mean you have to be, too. Stay calm and look just how ugly he could be when angry. You never want to be like him as well, so don’t be tempted to act like one.
If his anger concerns you, answer politely and let him see how calm you handle the situation. Surely he would soon realize how immature he had been for acting so stupid.
Be a calm parent
Having a meltdown is but typical once you’ve become a parent. The pressure of work, responsibilities, and having children may be too overwhelming. But these are not excuses to welcome every opportunity to show how frustrated you can be. Be mindful to keep calm.
However, should you can’t control your anger one day, Momi Berlin promises not to judge you. The same manner when we see how calmly you’ve handled a frustrating situation, you would surely see us smiling and cheering for you.