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There may be many reasons we do and say things, but one thing is sure. We, humans, seek our gain from our decisions. Some opted to work because they want to get paid and have the money to buy their wants. Others push for their passion because it drives them to fulfillment. Thus, most of the peoples’ actions are self-interested.
As being self-interested somehow connotes greediness or negativity, when we look deeper though, it merely means seeking our goal. Self-interest is what motivates us to reach our aim. What makes it bad or otherwise is the way we play with people around us. It can be, for instance, intentionally or unintentionally dismissing a friend’s feelings just so to get something. And they’re a lot of everyday activities and decisions we act to satisfy our self-interested desires.
When I read Chanakya’s words about friendship and self-interest, I object. Friendship is more on genuinely thinking about your shared interest and cultivating honesty and compassion. It is never about self-interest. Nor it is imposing the same love be returned because it naturally happens when we sincerely care for the other person.
Friendship with self-interest
These past few days, I live with a heavy heart. I am saddened by a friend who unintentionally- and I pray it is unintentionally – created a significant conflict in my life. I saw her dishonestly several times, but the way she brightens my day with her funny antics must have covered those rude behaviors. A recent incident, though, can’t anymore cover up her self-interested needs.
As Robert Louis Stevenson once said, “[tweetshareinline tweet=”A friend is a present you give yourself.” username=”SPk3(ad*e(5d4@pEwem@tnlADFb9ZZc8:1:1″]” It is a gift we give to ourselves as we decide if we want to befriend a particular person. Only that, we need not assume that the same person can provide the same love and care to us. We can hope for the best, though. If it fails, then it isn’t meant to be friendship but mere casual acquaintance perhaps.
Friendship and lessons
Anyway, life must go on, and I must be grateful instead of each individual who comes in my life over the years. Because of them, I learned that true friendship isn’t simply sharing passion and gossip. It isn’t also about being hurt by a lack of frequent calls and meetups. And most notably, it still feels good to forgive lapses, understand human limitations, and learn from the experience. Better be careful then who we call friends.
And to the few who are very dear to me and remain true, CHEERS to our friendship.
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Cheers to Friendship
You are like the Sinalco to my life. Known as the oldest soft drink brand in Europe, Sinalco is concocted from tropical and local fruits. It has a smooth and light taste leaving you not feeling bloated. This gives the cola its natural refreshing taste, the same feeling of happiness and contentment I have knowing my friends are just around. The Sinalco Special, for one, is as true to its name – special – like how my friends are to me. Sinalco Special doesn’t taste like the soda we are accustomed with. It is composed of a fruit mix and has a taste close to sparkling wine. That what makes me in love with the brand, like I am to my friends.
This non-alcoholic drink is solely distributed by Euro Interbev Corp. and is relatively new in the beverage industry in the country. The company is slowly building brand awareness for Sinalco, but I know that those who would have a taste of this German drink would surely be loyal to it. Why? Its taste is just pure bliss.
In life, we make several choices, and we hope to end up with a better option. Having tried and tasted Sinalco, I know it is the better option. Just like the few select friends I have, they are the better if not the best.
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Sinalco products are available at 7-Eleven stores nationwide and in some leading supermarkets, such as Landmark, South Supermart, Makati Supermart, Puregold (Lifestyle), Sta. Lucia, Freshto, Hitop, and Iloilo Supermart.
true momi, sa totoo lang ang konti lang ng mga kaibigan ko lima sila at masasabi kong masaya ako at sila ang mga kaibigan ko. hindi man kami mag kita kita madalas pero may connection kami sa isat isat. hindi naman importante kung sobrang daming kaibigan ang mahalaga kahit konti lang basta totoo meron ka man o wala anjan sila parati
Ako 2years ako marami ako na realized.. na di lahat ng tinuturing mong kaibigan ay kaibigan din ang turing sayo.. di lahat ng minamahal mong kaibigan..kaibigan din ang tingin sayo. Yung akala mo ok na ok kayong lahat pero malalaman mo sa huli..Di pala totoo ang pakikisama nila sayo. Yung nag resign ako sa work. Kasama na din yung pag reresigned ko sa friendship na binigay ko sakanila.. natuto na ako.. mas ok ng walang kaibigan o iilan lang basta yung totoo lang sayo.Hindi yung kaibigan mo lang dahil may mahihita sila sayo.tapos pag wala kana. Ni dI kana nila maalala na kamistahin.. Natuto na ako, at dileast na ako gaano nag iinvest ng pag mamahal at pag titiwala sa mga tao na inaakala kong kaibigan ang turing sakin..
absence is a test of friendship i only have few but i know they are true. Imay not be able to see them now but they are forever in my heart.
Ang kaibigan mahlaga pero minsan d m lam totoo b sila sau minsan ka lang makkhanap n tunay n kaibigan
aww ang sarap basahin. For me self interest nga is related to being greedy and selfish than believing the other way around. Thanks for this realization Mommy Berlin. And relate too, the more i get older the more i am selective or it has something to do with lack of socialization nowadays after i chose to be sahm. Pero kasi i have a bad experience of having to know someone well but ended up talking ill of not just me but to anybody in our circle kaya siguro i really appreciate those who are always behind me thru thick and thin..I am celebrating friendship wd few friends who are real and Sinalco is just perfect for the celebration. Actually fave ko na siya kasi not too much tamis.