Many of us imagine that every day will be filled with joy once we find our lifetime partners. We picture the thrill of sharing a family with that special one, and the sheer unending pleasure of a partner who is so very in tune with us.
Sometimes, though, we won’t see our partners eye-to-eye the way we might like. Our lifestyle might differ, too, or we may bicker about things we would have once agreed on.
When this happens, many of us worry that our similarities with our partners weren’t what we thought. In truth, though, any long-term relationship comes in stages, and some of them won’t be blissful. Instead of assuming a bad patch is the end, consider whether the following common problems are to blame.
The stars aren’t aligned
Whether we avidly check our Virgo starsign or don’t pay any attention to horoscopes, it’s fair to say that sometimes, the stars just aren’t aligned. During the long life of a happy relationship, there are bound to come times when something in the air makes us clash. Call it the stars, or fate, or whatever works for us. In these instances, even efforts to put things right are sure to fall flat.
If there seems to be some outside force working against our relationship right now, then, acknowledge that perhaps we need a bit of space. Like everything else, this period will eventually pass.
You aren’t checking in
Often, we become so aligned with our partners because we spend a lot of time together. We share ideas because of endless conversations which strengthen our connections. If we haven’t checked in for a while, these connections can become fraught. We may stop understanding each other’s reasoning. We may even stop sharing our values the way we used to.
Rather than seeing this as a disaster, consider it as a warning. It’s a sure sign we need to spend more time together so we can tether those connections once more, and make sure that we’re still on the same page when it matters.
Sometimes, it’s also important to note that relationship problems come from nowhere but inside. If we’re having a stressful time at work or with the kids, for example, our partner may begin to annoy us in ways they never did when we were carefree and in love. We may then get into the habit of snapping and even blaming our partner when the fault lies with us. Before taking anything out on our loved one, then, try to take a step back. Consider whether they are at fault, or whether our anger is coming from another place. Just bringing this awareness to our interactions could see our partner supporting us rather than holding the burden of our worries. And, that could see us as a happy family again in no time.
When True Love Stops Seeing Eye To Eye
They say life is not always a bed of roses. Same with being in a relationship, life can sometimes be challenging especially if our partners don’t agree 100% on some of our beliefs. But that doesn’t mean we need to end our relationship already. Sometimes, a break is all we need or perhaps, a little space. Don’t fall to the trap and quit. After all, true love is worth fighting for.
Devoted. Compassionate, Instinctive. Berlin loves to write personal narratives, thrilling discoveries, and mommy tips that make daily living the happiest. She shares the small house with her husband and their five boys.