Have you heard of the story “The Dirty laundry?” I haven’t not until this morning when I read it to my 11-year-old son. It was such a beautiful story worth sharing. Of course, the lesson it imparted was equally divine. I got it from Paulo Coelho’s blog. And he wrote it more than two years ago.
A young couple moves into a new neighborhood. The next morning while they are eating breakfast, the young woman sees her neighbor hanging the wash outside.
“That laundry is not very clean; she doesn’t know how to wash correctly. Perhaps she needs better laundry soap.”
Her husband looks on, remaining silent. Every time her neighbor hangs her wash to dry, the young woman makes the same comments.
A month later, the woman is surprised to see a nice clean wash on the line and says to her husband:
“Look, she’s finally learned how to wash correctly. I wonder who taught her this?”
The husband replies, “I got up early this morning and cleaned our windows.”
Criticizing your parenting style story
There is this mother who talked with excessive pride and self-satisfaction about her parenting style.
Allegedly, my son bullied her son, and she was displeased. She mentioned how “kind” his children are because they know how she gets angry. They know they will be lashed and beaten should they do something wrong. She gave a lengthy statement about the right parenting techniques. I kept mum after seeing that our conversation will lead to nowhere.
When I visited the school to meet with the school president and spoke with the teacher, I learned it was the other way around. It was my son who was being bullied all along. And all those times, my boy just kept his silence, not even telling me what the other classmate did to him. Last week, when the classmate attacked him, he finally ran out of patience and lost his temper. He whacked the classmate on the head. Only that the classmate was able to avoid my son’s hard blow. The classmate retaliated and hit my son’s head quite heavily. And it was just one of the many incidents that happened between them, with the bully classmate starting first.
The moral of the story “the dirty laundry”
We sometimes act so fast and judge too quickly, especially if we are clouded by anger, negativity, and even unfulfilled desires. We also make quick little snap judgments based on our first visual.
It was easy for the classmate’s mother to say malicious and cruel comments against my son. It was so easy for her as well to challenge my parenting style. And it was so easy for her to dare my son and accuse him of bullying her son when she was not aware of how her son behaves in school. She mentioned she knows her son as gentle and kind because she hasn’t received a single complaint from any parent.
I rest my case. I will just use my time cleaning our window.