Husband resigned from work to fully concentrate on an engineering consultancy firm he set up. He is now serving his last week at the company he was with for 10 years. Then he confessed to his wife his apprehension. He told me he penned all his concerns and before he could even finish his writing, he felt relieved. He realized there is nothing to worry much as those disadvantages he thought are actually his advantages.
I asked permission to post his composition, and he smiled at me. “They are yours, too. Use it and be inspired as well.”
Thoughts of my husband
“I am presently in a moment of great disadvantage. I am supporting four kids; two are in high school while one is in his fifth grade. They attend in expensive schools. The youngest is one-year-old that needs caring. My wife is three months pregnant. I have no regular earning. We are renting. I am the breadwinner. We do not have HMO, and I do not have any life insurance for my family in case I die. My bank balance is about zero.
“However, I am blessed with knowledge so I can figure out things. I have a relatively healthy 40-year old body. My eyesight and hearing are still intact. I can communicate. I can cook. I can drive.
I am comfortable doing errands and chores. I am trained to endure pain and poverty. I can command. I am sensitive and socially alert. I have an exemplary degree of clash detection and spatial skills. I succeeded quitting smoking. The number is my friend. I appreciate physics. I have good power of concentration.
“I am a real estate broker. I have a computer and smartphone. I have decent clothing. I have a new watch. I have a farm to run.
“I have caring and smart kids. I have an intelligent and loving wife. I have an ever supportive mother-in-law. I have a brother and a sister. My father is still well. My mother is still alive.
“I have a profession that is open to opportunities. Opportunities are presenting themselves as I make offers. My integrity is intact.”
Discussions of the husband and his wife
Seriously, raising kids eats up more than half our budget. A considerable portion goes to education which husband and I give importance. To have children as well means dedicating more time for their growth and development. I resigned to give my full attention to them.
Husband admitted he find it hard when I left my corporate job. The burden of looking for food and money became his sole responsibility. But then he relayed to me that the pride of eating home-cooked meals during lunch was something his officemates would envy. Seeing his wife spending time with his kids doing school assignment is something that pleases him. Knowing that his one-year-old boy could shout “Papa” and knows how to do the mano po sign and even give sweet kisses are priceless. He also acknowledges how my blogging and writing have brought great help. I was never a disadvantage but his strength.
He also shared that he truly thank God for blessing us with smart and kindhearted boys. They not only bring laughter and great joy in the small house. More than that, they are our wingman. They could manage to operate the washing machine and do the laundry. They help us in cleaning the car and the house, and that includes the comfort room. They change the bed linens and curtains, the rugs and bath towels. They manage our trash. They look after their baby brother while I take a shower or cook. And most importantly, they give importance to their education.
They are polite. They bring me to bed when I feel dizzy. They give me water and medicine. Husband and I are confident that as we grow old, these boys will be our hands and eyes. They are never our disadvantage. They are our treasure.
Thoughts of the wife
I understand husband’s fear. But I believe in him just the same way I have great faith in the capacity of my kids. He is the most hardworking man I have ever known. He works at the office all day, and when he got home, he still works. He has the heart for the poor. He shares his blessings. He finds time for his wife and his boys. His integrity is very much commendable. And he has his kids’ and wife’s support.
We are not rich. We struggle at times. But we are a family who believes that God is good and He provides.
Faith don’t come in a bushel basket, Missy. It come one step at a time. Decide to trust Him for one little thing today, and before you know it, you find out He’s so trustworthy you be putting your whole life in His hands.
Lynn Austin, Candle in the Darkness