The most common of all clichés I’ve heard. Sounds so close to the truth, but still, I am uncertain if reality favors TIME HEALS ALL WOUNDS.
chicken pox. I had chicken pox 24 years ago and it left a permanent scar on my skin. They say laser treatment or other cosmetic procedures can effectively reduce scars like that of the chicken pox. There are also some skin bleaching creams claiming to help fade the scar a little.
Now, I feel no more pain because my chicken pox was completely healed. Time heals all wounds. The scar though is there to remind me that once upon a time, I had chicken pox and in time my boys may not be spared as well.
burnt arms. I had my arms burnt by boiling cooking oil more than 12 years ago. The mark is less visible but if one would look closely, my skin looks somehow untidy because of its uneven color. I don’t feel any pain or heating sensation anymore. That is because time heals all wounds. But the blemish on my arm will be a constant reminder of my carelessness.
emergency appendectomy. I had an emergency appendectomy six years ago and my stitches still seem to look very sore and tender. I also feel a few quick pinching sensation especially if it is cold or my pants are very tight. The surgeon I spoke with a week ago mentioned that the wound was already completely healed seven months from the date of operation. And the new pain I am experiencing is dubbed peripheral neuropathy, physician’s term for damage to nerves caused by trauma or the side-effects of an operation.
All these are about healed wounds. All healed in and by time.
Sadly, there are some wounds that even time can’t heal. Or maybe we have been too focused to waiting for that time.
Still in doubt if time heals everything. But certainly, time passes. There are a few individuals who can accept the hurts and disappointments of life and simply move on. They have that certain resiliency, perfectly illustrated as springs that are able to spring back to its old form.
Others seem to stay imprisoned in their pain, I included, unfortunately. They — or we — live life as if the painful memory had happened just minutes ago.
Would you love to stay miserable and forever be indebted to years’ pain? Heed my advice:
Remain bitter and unforgiving.
“Mandela says gently, ‘The Rainbow Nation starts here. Reconciliation starts here.’ His security leader responds, ‘Not long ago these guys tried to kill us.’ Mandela says, ‘Yes I know, forgiveness starts here. Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.'” (From the movie Invictus.)
Such a powerful weapon that though I pray that I be able to use it, I can’t. I can’t because I remain bitter.
Always think of yourself as the victim.
Let yourself be entrapped by life’s misfortunes and always bother yourself that your antagonist’s every action is towards harassing you more.
Oftentimes, I become entrapped within my own creations, perhaps too much telenovelas and reality tv watching. Or simply, I enjoy torturing myself with too little or too much information and end each info with a dramatic conclusion.
Do not free your mind.
This is very useful. Play the hurting scene over and over in your mind. Make the decade’s ago scene the most important event of your life and talk about nothing else but that misfortune alone. In short, make it the central theme in your life.
Complain the unfairness and evilness of life.
It’s a given fact that there are honest and righteous individuals as there are morally corrupt and wicked folks. Dwell on life’s injustices and forever avoid taking forward.
If you follow these suggestions, I assure you have a wonderfully unpleasant and satisfyingly upsetting life. And unless I try to do the otherwise, I might find the answer then and say that indeed, time heals all wounds.
Devoted. Compassionate, Instinctive. Berlin loves to write personal narratives, thrilling discoveries, and mommy tips that make daily living the happiest. She shares the small house with her husband and their five boys.