Note: No peer pressure is a letter from a mom to her firstborn. She wrote this about three years ago when her son showed signs he can make decisions of his own. She is now posting it with high hopes her eldest son will chance upon this letter. It would make her happier if her three other boys read this and learn from their Kuya firstborn.
When you were just our little baby, I decide what you will wear for the day. I even arrange play dates with children I only approved of.
Now that you are a growing boy about to reach his teen years, you decide who your friends are and what clothes you will wear.
You have been very vocal of your own choices. Perhaps, most of your decisions are influenced by your peer’s choices and reactions. You do not want to be the laughing-stock thus you go with the flow. Or maybe it is human nature to listen and copy your own age group’s choices.
I remember when we bought your school shoes last Sunday. You opted for a very pointed black leather shoes. You told me most boys in your school wear that kind of shoes. When we had our monthly grocery, you asked me if it’s ok that you grab a bottle of styling gel for your hair. You also wear your baseball cap very differently from your two other brothers. You have grown to be fashionable and started to have your own style.
Perhaps, you’ve been spending more time with your peers than you do with us — your parents and siblings — and they have influenced you greatly seeing now by the way you dress and act.
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I pray to the Lord that He guides you to make the wisest choices and decisions. that you do not end up in a sticky peer pressure situation. That no matter how unpopular your decisions may be — perhaps, even making you one uncool dude to your group — you know deep inside you that those were the most appropriate decisions. And that you would always decide and choose based on the principles we’ve always taught you.
I have seen how peer pressure can be so helpful and be so mean. But it would always be your courageous self who would make a difference to go with the flow or refuse to go along.
Good luck, my firstborn. You have the potential to make a difference. Be a cool dude and make your parents be proud of you even more.