MOMI MUSINGS/ Rage can kill

Jul 10, 2016 | Links, Only Berlin

“Rage can kill you.”

This was what my eight-year-old boy told me one Monday evening. I went home that day; saw the house nearly in chaos; and expressed my disappointed to my three boys. Surprised with my sudden rage, my boys were like superorganisms working and moving very fast to please their silly mother.

After we had our dinner, my Bunso approached this mother and said, “Do you know that rage can kill you? Because you keep on shouting, you will feel something like difficulty breathing and before you know it, you die already. We can’t bring your life back, mama. So next time, when you want things to be done, tell them to us in a rather soft and easy manner — just like how you talk to us. Your rage will never do good.”

He caressed my hands and smiled at me. I smiled back but remained still. I wasn’t prepared to hear those words from my son.

Another big lesson learned.

* January 22, 2014 was the day I wrote this post.  A good reminder to this mama who still acts crazy from time to time.  I still haven’t learned. 

56 Comments

  1. MEGumiho

    I’ll keep that in mind, mommy 🙂 I shout at my kids whenever I want something to be done 🙁

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    • momi berlin

      We tend to be so stressed with household chores and other things perhaps. But it is nice to be mindful as well.

      Reply
  2. pamela

    Clever son. now my daughter can tell me all kinds of things for me to stop scolding her

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    • momi berlin

      Kids are real sensitive. Surely they will always be there to remind us.

      Reply
  3. Long shet ling

    ya shouting is not good, thanks for the information

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  4. Amanda Saw

    Your sons are growing up right if they can teach an adult life lessons like this. =)

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    • momi berlin

      They teach me life lessons more than me doing that to them.

      Reply
  5. Miriam

    True. Better to keep the rage under control. Not good for our health

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    • momi berlin

      Under control and not good for our health. I will always remember that.

      Reply
  6. Joyce R. Lee-Bates (@joycescapade)

    So true, sometimes I believe our kids are our guardian angels. They shed some light when we are blinded by our daily struggles.

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    • momi berlin

      Indeed. I like how you described it.

      Reply
  7. Qarah Moments

    God always uses people close to us to correct us and to check our hearts. This is also a good reminder for me.

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    • momi berlin

      Thank you for this. Indeed true. God really knows best.

      Reply
  8. Absolute Yana

    your son will definitely be among those who are successful…

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    • momi berlin

      Thank you. I always pray for that as well.

      Reply
  9. Nilyn EC Matugas

    wow! I’ll be left speechless if my son tells me that! Naiiyak ako habang binabasa ko to, sis. Grabe ang maturity at concern nila sayo, very smart! Grabe, they’re brutally honest talaga no?

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    • momi berlin

      They can be honest at times and they can be takot to me also. But I love it when they are honest and open. i learn a lot from them. Nate will surely not tell you those words. Youre too gentle to him nga e.

      Reply
  10. rolledin2onemom

    Wow, kids say the darnedest things! But he has a point ha? Lets make sure we keep
    our temper in check next time. Hehe.

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  11. gilian

    I’m trying everyday to really discipline my kids with love and gentleness. It can be diffictult at times especially when I’m tired, but it pays off whenever I see the results. =)

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    • momi berlin

      🙂 the same idea i would want to discipline my kids. And i am trying real hard.

      Reply
  12. Meikah Ybañez-Delid

    Wow, you’re son is smart, and he’s right! I like it also that he tells you that. So let’s try our best to be cool, mommies! Not easy, but doable! 😀

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    • momi berlin

      Yup. Not easy but doable. Thank you for the encouragement.

      Reply
  13. wifeymommyrn

    I’ll keep this is mind. Lalo na ngaun my 2 yr old is makulit na. Thanks for the reminder!

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    • momi berlin

      Haha. Kulit talaga yan. Enjoy your little kulit.

      Reply
  14. Maan Laxa

    Woah! Wisdom coming from a little boy! Boy, what he said hit close to home. I’m guilty of losing my temper sometimes and I really need to work on it.

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  15. Mommy Levy

    Your son is so smart. Sometimes they tell things na nakakatawa pero totoo.

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  16. Emily

    Well, I guess we all know it but putting it into practise is not that easy. This is a great reminder to all of us.

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  17. GengQian Choo

    super impressed with your boy! no wonder they always said that children is the best teacher in the world.

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  18. Isaac Tan

    anger management, important.. 🙂 sometimes we get overboard especially when the kids get too naughty.

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  19. coffee and beyond

    Hahaha! That’s the reminder you get in raising intelligent kids. Amazing how he approached you like that. Was he really a boy during that time or an old man hiding in a boy’s body? Lol! A great reminder to me too.

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  20. Jackie

    Wow, that’s very mature of your son! Kudos to you Mommy Berlin for raising such a gentle son! 🙂

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  21. Lee Sharon

    Waaa your boy is such a mature and brave boy! In a good way that he learn and understand the bad side of rage, maybe he is sending signal to ask you not to be rage at him when he is naughty too hahaha

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  22. betty Liew

    Such a sweet boy. His melt your heart with his soft tone.

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  23. Sunshine Kelly

    Yes rage can kill and explode our blood vessels. Keep calm mom.

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    • momi berlin

      Thank you. Always keeping that in mind.

      Reply
  24. rollcoastermom

    Awwww, this speaks to me. There are days when I feel so overwhelmed with everything that I need to do that I can’t help but lash out as well. But you’re son is right. We really have to learn how to manage our anger better.

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    • momi berlin

      Yes. I am learning everyday. It seems they teach me more life lessons

      Reply
  25. momsterteacher

    Wisdom from kids is wisdom at its purest. Few words, pero sapul lagi.

    Reply
  26. Maria Teresa Figuerres

    We’re in the same boat. I think I always get mad every day. Thanks for reminding me that I need to live longer for my son, so I need to take things easy.

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    • momi berlin

      We should then take things easily. And I hope I can, really please.

      Reply
  27. Ivy Kam

    Your boy very smart, so take deep breath the next time you feel raging again 😉

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    • momi berlin

      Thank you for the kind advice. Will do then. .

      Reply
  28. Shini Lola

    Smart boy! My niece is telling me that too.

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  29. Joanne Wee

    Smart boy and mommies should keep that in mind

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  30. Arisa Chow

    Just scream into a pillow, it helps and at least no one can judge you.

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  31. Peachy A.

    What a mature thing to say! Sometimes we adults do need to get reminded.

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    • momi berlin

      I agree. Reminded by those younger than us.

      Reply
  32. May De Jesus-Palacpac

    Oh wow. Mess also makes me go crazy. There are days I win over it, but when things to do are piling up, it helps to have a clean house.

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  33. queenofthebangs

    I like your son’s way of thinking. In a way, he was able to calm you while still talking sense. 😉

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  34. Shin May

    You must be surprised when he tell you this ! haha

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  35. Wilson Ng

    Children dont lie dont they!

    Reply

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