MOMI CRIES/ it takes a strong person to WRITE sorry and even a stronger person to SAY sorry

Jun 25, 2016 | Love, Only Berlin

This mother was heartbroken.  Everyday, she would wake up at 4:30 am to cook breakfast and prepare the baon of her boys.  She learned though that her two boys didn’t eat the pancit sotanghon she cooked for their recess.  The Bunso didn’t even open his lunchbox.

She felt so unimportant and disrespected.

The following day, she didn’t rise early, on purpose.  She also went home late that night.   She didn’t make herself available to help the kids with their homework.

She arrived home that same night pretty glum and not talking.  And then she found a note on her bed.

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Though still feeling a little depressed, it’s but funny to realize that sometimes, we need to limit our  availability to people we care about the most.  That way, it somehow raises our value in their eyes.  This mother was even told by her husband the next morning that the boys even texted him at 7:30pm telling that “mama isn’t home yet.”  

There would be days that we feel under appreciated and a little taken for granted.  It’s but normal anyway.  Though I personally do not expect anything in return  from my boys, it’s still nice to know that we are appreciated.  It’s our relationship with our family members that enrich our lives and makes us going.  Perhaps what I would appreciate very much that my boys do is to finish the food I prepared for them or tell me honestly if they don’t like it so I could improve on it.

And for you young man who gave me this sorry note, I appreciate the gesture.   Though may be a little hard for him to utter those words, he approached me the following morning and blurted out “I’m sorry, mama.  I will finish my food from now on.”

You are always forgiven, my son.

* January 24, 2014

50 Comments

  1. Amazing Life Daily

    Hi Momi. Touching. And I agree, sometimes, you need to let them do things on their own, make them understand that they have to do what they need to do, and sometimes, that includes not doing things for them.

    BUT, if I may, it must be intentional, and not because you were upset or glum.

    I understand how you feel and where you are coming from. That is the price you pay for being the best ever mom, the only mom (and no one else) for your kids. You are the perfect mom for them, remember that.

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    • momi berlin

      Thank you for the comforting and kind words. Sometimes I think if my boys hate it that they cant choose a mom but I guess I have been supportive and loving in my own ways. ANyway, hope no more left overs or untouched food. It really is disheartening. ehehe, drama.

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  2. SofarsoSabine

    I agree with Robert. Children sometimes do things not because they want to hurt you or be bad, but because they are just children. Did you ask why the food was not eaten? Keep on going best mom! You can do it 🙂

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    • momi berlin

      They weren’t able to touch the food because of playing. I got angry more because their class schedule was whole day and they might get headache or stomach ache for not eating. Anyway, I hope they’ve learned their lessons and this kind of incident will not happen again.

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  3. jendialouise

    aaww you surely raised such good kids. I am a first time mom and reading blog posts like this one makes me feel more inspired.

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    • momi berlin

      Thank you for such kind words. They say parenting is hard but I agree otherwise. it is easy if you do things that move you to love.

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  4. John Pena

    Awwwe such a nice story. I remember the song by Blue, “sorry seems to be the hardest word”. I thought only adults find it hard but kids find it hard too. So cute 🙂

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    • momi berlin

      My younger boy could easily say Im sorry, perhaps because he is such a sweet boy. My second son has become aloof and seldom talks. That’s why it is somehow hard for him to express his feelings.

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  5. Stargazer Writes

    You know the saying that goes, “You’ll never know someone’s worth unless they’re gone.” At least your young one came into his senses. It is hard for kids to realize their own fault these days.

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    • momi berlin

      I agree. And I thank the Lord that my boys are somehow sensitive of their mom’s own issues and drama. ehehe.

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  6. gilian

    I feel you. =) Though we don’t expect anything in return, it still feels so good and so motivated when the people you wake up for finish their food or take really great value in what you do. =) Keep it up. =) Very inspiring. =)

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    • momi berlin

      Thank you for the understanding. Husband would tell me I’m becoming too sensitive na raw. ehehe.

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  7. Vanna Lindholm @ Annechadwickrealty.com

    Nice story! Similar to my life story. I don’t live anymore with my mother, but when she come to visit, she is whole day in kitchen cooking or ironing or cleaning. And at the end of day when I have some spare time she tells me that she is too tired. I have tried to tell her that she don’t need to do it. She felt hurt.

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    • momi berlin

      You have such a very sweet and loving mom. I guess it is one of her ways to tell you she loves you and will forever be by your side.

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  8. Cheryle

    It’s kinda cute that this kid knows what he was sorry for. And he knows what to do. Being a mom is not an easy job. It’s hard to just let the kids do whatever they want because you still care after all.

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    • momi berlin

      I guess even if our kids grow old, we will always care and feel responsible for them. Thank you.

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  9. ellonacaballero

    I can only imagine yung feeling. But what really amazes me is the fact na your boys know how to say sorry and really mean it. You taught them well. They know how to value relationships. 🙂

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    • momi berlin

      Thank you. And I hope they will remain humble as they grow old; also give importance to relationship.

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  10. Geraldine

    I feel you Momi, sometimes even we adults also take things for granted! I cherish all the time I have for my young kids now, because I know there will be one day they will not want to be by my side. Motherhood is not the most glamourous job!

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    • momi berlin

      haha, may not be the most glamorous but the most fulfilling if done right. 🙂 Thanks

      Reply
  11. jessicaayun

    Such a brave kid to write those words. I used to be like him when I did something wrong, I opted to express my apology or any expression thru letters. Unfortunately, sometimes, people find it difficult to say sorry as they grow old. But I am sure your kid will grow well. 🙂

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    • momi berlin

      I do hope too they will all grow up to be real gentlemen. And saying sorry if needed. 🙂

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  12. Carola

    The note is so sweet! And it’s lovely he came to say it to you as well. Did you also talk about it? Why he didn’t finish the food? (How did you find out). Did he realize you were hurt because you didn’t got up early to make the food? Or did you speak about it. Hopefully in the future everythign will go well and both of you are very happy 🙂

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    • momi berlin

      Thank you. The note is a treasure. Kept it with me. When he said his sorry, I explained to him I wake up early for him and his brothers. All I need is a little appreciation and that is in the form of finishing their food. I found out because their lunch boxes were left untouched. 🙁 Nway, I would want to believe we have a healthier relationship now.

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  13. Kaity

    Aww! Sweet!(: made me teary-eyed. But that’s just how life is for us moms. We can do this!(:

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    • momi berlin

      Yup, exactly – that’s how life is for us moms. And yes, thank you. We can do this 🙂

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  14. mamaspeaksagain

    It is very easy to take people we know who are always there for us for granted. We often forget to say thank you. This is a good post to remind everyone to be more appreciative of others.

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    • momi berlin

      Thank you. I hope sometime soon, my boys would read this so they would be constantly reminded to appreciate people around them.

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  15. Angel Chavis

    A mother’s love… we love them and do for them because we want to and we wouldn’t have it any other way. The last words were especially touching.

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    • momi berlin

      Thank you for appreciating the post. Yes, moms can be so hard on their kids but deep inside, they are hurting too.

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  16. Louisa Mercado (@2livelovelaugh5)

    It’s sad when they don’t appreciate our efforts but it was also sweet of your son to realize and apologize his mistake. Not sure it gets any easier as they get older. Sometimes I have to remind myself that they also have their own lives.

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    • momi berlin

      I hope they could still utter the word sorry even if they are all grown up na. And husband says I am being too matampuhin na, perhaps nagkakaedad na kasi 🙂

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  17. Charm Gamboa

    I’d like to congratulate you in raising intelligent and lovable kids. They may have taken you for granted but they knew what they did wrong all by themselves and said sorry. You should really be proud of them.

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    • momi berlin

      Yes, proud of the boys. Thank you for the congratulations.

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    • momi berlin

      Thanks. Their father, too, disciplines them and I must say he has his ways to let the boys follow him.

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  18. Teresa Dumadag

    I agree that it takes a strong person to say sorry be it in writing or in person. Children learn when we model this to them. I also say sorry to my kids when I make mistakes. I want to set an example to them.

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    • momi berlin

      I love hearing it when parents too say their sorry to kids when they know they need to. Happy parenting to you.

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  19. Maan Laxa

    Oh wow, I teared up a little when I read your son’s note. What happened to you was hurtful, but your sons’ remorse was touching!

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    • momi berlin

      Yes. Lessons learned for both of us. Thank you.

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  20. Nilyn EC Matugas

    Awww, that really takes courage for him to say sorry sis! I agree, sometimes, we need to be away in order for them to realize our worth. I think they learned their lesson. Naku, di pa naman ako marunong magluto, yari ako kay Nate nito!

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  21. rollcoastermom

    Awww I have these moments too, especially now that my daughters are teenagers already and living at their dad’s house. It really hurts to feel unappreciated but I try hard to shake it off and just think that they’re not doing it on purpose. For you though, it’s good to know that your son acknowledges that you got hurt and apologized for it. 🙂

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  22. rowenarose

    Awwww…. He is so sweet. I’m thinking about my mom when I am reading this. There are lots of time when we don’t appreciate what she is doing and I feel about bad about it. Thank you for sharing this. Now I can be more sensitive in dealing with my mom and her efforts for us.

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  23. Mommy Pehpot

    Burn boys! hahaha lesson learned! Don’t piss mama or you’ll never taste a bit of her good cooking!

    Ganyan din ako sa boys ko mother, if I feel na medyo sumosobra sila or that they don’t appreciate kung ano meron sila, I try to take it away from them 🙂

    May mga ganyang eksena din kame na hindi ako babangon ng maaga at bahal sila sa buhay nila. So far naman nagtatanda ang mga bata 🙂

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    • momi berlin

      Hahaha. That doesnt make us one bad mama naman, diba? I agree, though, natututo naman sila kaso after a few weeks, malilimutan na naman at umpisa na naman ng drama namin.

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  24. Edel San

    Thumbs up for the kid who said “sorry.” Although I really can’t imagine how your child felt when you didn’t help with the homework nor arrived home on time. As for kids not finishing their baon, I guess most kids are like that because they’d rather play or chat with their friends during snack or lunchtime. 🙂

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    • momi berlin

      Yes, because they are kids. Play and playmates lure them. Nway, he is such a gentleman and a kind hearted boy to say his sorry and acknowledge his wrongdoing.

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  25. Eens Gonzales

    Awww! I feel you sis 🙂 Don’t ever think your boys will ever wish to have another mom *winks*

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    • momi berlin

      Thank you for “feeling” me. Ihihi. All the best and the luck to us.

      Reply

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