I have four boys and they are all playful, outspoken most of the time, and sometimes hardheaded.  On some occasions, I would lose patience.  At times, I would just keep mum.
The quail eggs I was preparing one early morning taught me how to handle my children. Â It was only then when I’ve realized how a mother should think, act, and talk.
It was early morning. Â I woke up early to prepare my boys’ lunch. Â I boiled a few of their favorite quail eggs. Â And I began to remove the shell one by one, hoping that each is smooth and pretty.
I looked at the quail eggs again– examined them closely.  Some eggs appeared too messy. Others ended up too uninviting to eat while some still had pockmarks or tiny shells attached.
Sometimes, I treat my boys the same way I handle the quail eggs.
I could be harsh to my boys when frustrated.  And harsh discipline might leave scars that need years to heal.  Same with the egg, holding it too firm may result in an ugly, unappetizing egg covered with pockmarks.
I Â do not want my kids to be like some of the eggs IÂ peeled.
Lesson learned from this experience?
lessons from peeling off egg shells
Peeling eggs can be an effortless process when done carefully and properly. Â The result would be a clean and smooth egg with no scars.
Looking after four boys is just the same.  I need to be patient, careful, and sensitive.  And by doing so, no scars of hatred, fear, and aloofness will be built between us.
Parenting is as hard as it is wonderful. Â Just like peeling off the shell of an egg, dealing with kids should always be handled with care.
I agree with you and then some. I think that when you do not allow negativity to influence you, and you focus on the positives despite things that could make you upset, it becomes all so much the better.
You are less prone to making mistakes such as shouting, raising your voice, etc. 🙂
Thank you for the affirmation.
Well said…I too am learning the skills of raising my two kids, both daughter.While the elder one is 16 plus and requires a different mindset for counselling, the younger one who is just 10 is an altogether a different category.
Thank you and good luck to us in raising our kids.
I couldn’t agree more of this! Certainly, we need patience in terms of handling kids and indeed not easy. But as you go along the process, you’ll get used to it that you’ll never notice how becoming a parent changed us, a lot! hehehe Happy Mother’s day to you!
Thank you. Yes, motherhood changed me and is still continuously changing me. and I hope to be the loving mom my boys deserve
I love mothers who think like this. Sometimes stress is just to much and we have to keep in mind that parents are people too, so they get frustrated and stressed. But again, children are also people so they need care, respect and for you to be gentle. Love the way you though.
Thank you. And thanks as well for dropping by.
Great analogy about quail eggs and your sons. It’s funny how we learn about life experiences when we least expect it.
Take it easy… And remember you’re only human too!
Thank you and yes, will take your advice. Take it easy.
Amazing… it is great how small things teaches us big lessons… I feel moms should be love with child and understand them… 🙂 it’s amazing that you have 4 kids
Yup, blessed to have my four boys!
haha awesome post, actually very insightful. I did not know this
Thank you. 🙂
I have to admit I don’t have kids, so I can only relate from the outside. But I am no good peeling eggs 😉 x
Not good in peeling eggs either.
Great analogy. And yes parenting is as hard as it is wonderful That is so true.
Thank you. Yes. Parenting can be so heartbreaking and also heartwarming.
You are so open-minded you took that experience and connected with a real life situation. Lesson learned indeed
Thank you for the kind words.
Who knew a life lesson could be learned from peeling eggs! This is a very accurate comparison though. I love how you described raising your kids, it’s definitely something we can all relate to as parents.
Thank you for letting me know your thoughts too.
I love how you compared parenting to peeling boiled eggs. All you said are true. Patience and extreme care are important when raising kids.
oh, I love how you used the feeling of the eggs to draw insights with
Thank you for loving it. 🙂
That is definitely a good way to look at it. I try my best, but we all make mistakes.
Yes, we make mistakes and its good that we realize our wrongdoings and try to make amends.
Raising boys and peeling eggs are both hard things to do! haha
Haha. I agree.
I have never thought of looking at parenting like that, but is is so true
🙂
What a great comparison! Both raising children and peeling off egg shells are tasks that require your 100% attention and patience 🙂
I agree on the 100% attention and patience on peeling eggs and raising children.
This is a great post, parenting compared to peeling off egg shell. I was a hard time on peeling the eggs same as the parenting I am a single parent with two kids
Good luck and bless you always. Your kids would surely take care of you when they grow up and we grow older. 🙂
This is a great realization, Berlin! 🙂 Who would have thought one can really learn parenting from eggs? I am not a parent, well, at least, not yet. My mother was really harsh in her methods and those really did leave a scar on me. I will keep quail eggs in mind when it is my time. thanks so much!
Thank you as well, MIriam, for sharing your experience. Good luck and hope you be able to have a beautiful family.
This is so sweet, I love how you are stopping to think on your current actions. Your boys are very lucky to have such a cognizant mother!
Thank you.
What a nice realization. What a wonderful mom you are. 🙂 Plus, that dish looks yum with quail eggs. We’ve never tried adding eggs to ours before. Hehe.
Your kids will surely love the dish with quail eggs on them. Saw your cute boy and the baby sa brotzeit. Sarap panggigilan.
Mahilig pa naman yung bunso sa eggs! Hehehe
We’re raising boys, too. The “patience” part is the most challenging of all, but I try. 🙂
So hard pero yes, thats my line din, trying hard din ako to be patient with them. And i guess sila din patient sa nanay nila
That is such a wonderful analogy. I admire how you are able to put values in the simplest tasks. This is a wonderful read.
Thank you. 🙂
Nice analogy! I only have one boy, but I always seem to lose my cool. I can only imagine how it is having four boys like yours. Thanks for reminding me how to become a better parent.
Welcome. Having four boys in the family is definitely fun only if you look at it that way and you acknowledge it to fun and a blessing.
Agree! Grabe, we learn a lot of lessons talaga even just by the simple things we do at home. Naku, ako, I have 2 boys already and I hope I am doing well with how I handle them, si Nate kasi mabilis masaktan pag napagsasalitaan ko. Btw, sis, I saw you online sa palabas ni Marian. 🙂
Yes, kids tend to be sensitive na rin kaya medyo careful tayo sa mga sinasabi at ginagawa natin. Ahihi, yes, we talked about corporal punishment nun.
It’s a shame that not all mother’s see there children in this light. I have always thought of my kids as delicate as eggshells. 🙂
Wow, what a lovely insight. It made me think. I can be harsh sometimes and my temper gets the better of me, but from now on, I will remember that he is as delicate as egg shells. Thank you!
Right amount of firmness and gentleness to discipline a child. Easier said than done though. But with God’s help and grace, I believe it can be done. Not perfectly but lovingly. 🙂
Very nice words to hear from you. Love every word, every detail. Thank you for this comment. Appreciated it.
I agree! My mom was super hard on us, which is why our relationship with her suffered. I don’t want the same thing to happen with my son so I’m very conscious about it now.
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One conscious mom here, too. May the Lord bless us and help us to be patient and loving to our boys.
nice reflection, I agree with you that parenting is as hard as it is wonderful. We need all the help we could get in raising kids.
Help and support are indeed needed. Prayers, too, I believe.
Very insightful mommy 🙂 Parenting is truly is complicated, emotional yet rewarding experience.
I agree. A rewarding experience indeed but yes, complicated and emotional. Thank you.
I totally agree with you on this! I tend to be “too” harsh on my minis as well and recently learned that parenting done right takes time and lots of patience.
Yes, patience talaga. Good luck to us mommies.
What a nice analogy 🙂
So true! Happy parenting. 🙂
Thank you. Ihihi. Enjoying it naman.
I am a first time parent but I can well relate to this post. I felt guilty rin because I sometimes act tough thinking that it is for discipline’s sake. I agree that we really have to be careful with how we treat them as our actions will definitely leave an impact to them lalo na sa nararamdaman nila. Personally, nahihirapan ako sa ganitoing aspeto because I kept thinking baka kung masyadong maluwag e makunsinti mo na at pag nagagagalit naman baka nasobrahan ka na to the point na nasasaktan na sila imbes na matuto. Kaya kudos to all parents! Mahirap na masarap 🙂
Very well said Momi Berlin,keep this in mind minsan nasisigawan ko yung mga anak ko sa sobrang kulit,hahabaan ko pa ang pasensya ko
Maihahalintulad talaga momi ang quail eggs shells sa damdamin ng ating mga anak dapat mging dahan dahan tayo sa pagsasalita para hindi cla gaano masaktan
Very well said. Good reflection for as moms too.
Ang ganda netong blog mo momi Berlin ,talagang kakapulutan ng aral ng lahat ng mga parents.Agree po ako na mas kailangan po talaga ng mahabang pasensya pagdating sa mga kids natin.