I am 38 years old, and I have always thought I would be in my prime when I am at this age.
Wrong thinking.
I start to feel back pain, and my right hand would ache, perhaps because of too much scrubbing (scrubbing the floor tiles, the bathroom tiles, the lavatory, and even the carpet). Then the discomfort I am feeling for my right hand seems to be a permanent thing. I guess carrying my little munchkin too much triggered the pain. And my right hand would ache more when I cook. The boys are already used to hearing my sudden “aray” whenever my right hand hurts. Then there will always be somebody to rush by my side to help.
Never mind then if my right hand is weak. That it cannot anymore carry heavy loads. I always have a husband who offers to chop the hard-to-cut vegetables anyway. He takes the heavy casserole and even scrubs it for me. More often than not, I always have my first born to sweep and mop the floor. He comes ready, too, to stir that soup I am cooking. Or my second son is at my side to open that bottle of vitamins or that jar of my favorite nata de coco. Big bunso is always there to fetch me water and even carry my water jug upstairs.
I am aging. Time will come I may be unable to stand and would depend on someone to do things for me. I fear losing control of the stuff on my grasp. But my heart says otherwise.
FEAR NOT
As I recall all the years I have spent with my boys — those sleepless nights I would carry them all in my arms and cradle them to sleep; those first stumble and get-up-you-can-do-it exercises; those first day at school walks; and those frequent carry-me-I-am-too-sleepy-to-walk episodes – the more I am encouraged that I should not worry.
Because those efforts boost my confidence in my boys.
In all those efforts, I use my hands to steady my three boys as they toddled. And these are the same hands I am using to nurse my five-month-old little munchkin.
My first born at about a year old as he reaches for my hand to go somewhere.
My second son, nearly two years and a half years old, as he reaches for my hand to stand up.
One-year-old bunso as he reaches for my hand to help him get out of the crib.
And my bunso as we hold hands in our sleep.
And this early, with the help I am getting from the boys, the everyday responsibilities I am doing for them are all worth the effort – worth the love – because they are being given back to me a hundredfold.
Lesson learned today, cliche as it may sound, but truly —
Love and you shall be loved.
– Ralph Waldo Emerson
That quote applies to almost anything di ba 🙂
yes, almost anything 🙂
Being a mom really is rewarding even if sometimes it can be tiresome. At the end seeing just how they look at us with such love in their eyes is more than enough. 🙂
yes, totally agree. Their love and respect. 🙂
Yes our body is getting weak but we will never get tired of taking care our kids. There’s nothing more fulfillment feeling in this world than being a mother.
Yes, I super agree with you. Being a mother is the best gift ever. So many challenges and yet at the end of the day, we always end up stronger and able because of our children.
First son looks a LOT like big bunso in his baby pic. Was that really first son? Hehehe.
Anyway, kudos to you for being a super mom. I know your kids love you very much and you deserve every love.
🙂 Great to be back here.
Thanks. So happy to hear from you again. Haha, I should label all the photos na dahil napaghahalo halo ko na sila. Ang dami kasi nila. Hahahah.
Ang saya, you have a baby pa 🙂 Even if I want to have one pa din, I think di na kaya ng time and powers namin. Enjoy your mommyhood, makikibasa nalang ako and magdi dream na naamoy ko and nakukurot ko ang mga babies ninyo 🙂
Hihi. Thanks, Momi.
“Love and you shall be loved”. So true indeed!
Very Indeed 🙂
I know how you feel! For me it was my back and my right arm. It is true though that all your love shall be returned by your child. 🙂
I’m only 36 but I also feel some signs of aging already, not really on my hands and arms though. It’s more on my back.
Regular massage siguro would help? Take care always and enjoy Friday.
What a beautiful post. You are totally right, it’s all worth it in the end. Although a little superpower wouldn’t hurt, hehe 🙂 I hope you recover soon!
The right hand aches more each day. I should really visit a doctor and have this checked. Last time I inquired, I should look for a rehab Doctor daw. Thank you.
You have such an amazing kids mommy! God bless your family. 🙂
Thank you. God bless you and your family, too.