I still don’t get it. A lot of times, my husband annoys me. His masungit way of talking to me provokes me. The way he leaves the bathroom door open irritates me. And yet, I still love to be beside him anytime, anywhere.
Annoyance as a Sign of Comfort
Somehow, I would like to think that the presence of annoyance is what makes a relationship real. Gone are the prim and proper ways to impress. With months and years of being together, eventually, the authentic you come out. Your partner may feel you start exasperating him. But the reality is, you begin to act, speak, and think pretty much the way your heart desires. This, I believe, is a sign that your relationship has reached a healthy level of comfort.
Annoyance as a sign of growth
Most likely then, the annoyance I feel for my husband means there are aspects in our relationship that need improvement. Instances like being easily irritated over dirty dishes and unmade bed offer an opportunity for growth. Growth in the sense that we need to face our frustration and let our partner know our feelings. We must then talk to our loved ones and let them know how they can annoy us. The opportunity to talk gives both of us the chance to hear each side. Our loved ones might have valid reasons, too, for their works and deeds; and help dismiss our negative impression that they are just insensitive and irresponsible.
Couple Goals tames annoyance
That perhaps must be the couple goals of individuals in a relationship – understand each other and maintain a healthy relationship. The very same goal international psychologist and relationship therapist Lissy Puno wishes to impart in her newest book “Couple Goals.”
In “Couple Goals,” the best selling author encourages readers to “ enjoy the free fall” but “ don't fall in love for the wrong reasons” at the beginning of relationships. There are a lot of spaces in the book, too, where one can journal experiences and moments. I remember writing down all those kilig moments when I first entered a relationship, and Ms. Puno’s Couple Goals is one perfect book to do that journaling.
Couple Goals starts with YOU
More than the advice for new couples, Ms. Puno also discussed the importance of self-love. That it is essential to prioritize self-love before extending love to another person. Ms. Puno stressed that “when you know yourself more, you will know what you need and can make a better choice on the type of person who can be a partner to you.”
How about you? How would you know who the right one is? How does lifetime commitment work? As Ms. Puno describes, it all boils down to getting to know yourself.
Come! Together, let us invest in getting to know more about ourselves and eventually, our significant ones. Grab a copy now of Lissy Puno’s Couple Goals. It is available in National Book Store branches nationwide and online.
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