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I still don’t get it. A lot of times, my husband annoys me. His masungit way of talking to me provokes me. The way he leaves the bathroom door open irritates me. And yet, I still love to be beside him anytime, anywhere.
Annoyance as a Sign of Comfort
Somehow, I would like to think that the presence of annoyance is what makes a relationship real. Gone are the prim and proper ways to impress. With months and years of being together, eventually, the authentic you come out. Your partner may feel you start exasperating him. But the reality is, you begin to act, speak, and think pretty much the way your heart desires. This, I believe, is a sign that your relationship has reached a healthy level of comfort.
Annoyance as a sign of growth
Most likely then, the annoyance I feel for my husband means there are aspects in our relationship that need improvement. Instances like being easily irritated over dirty dishes and unmade bed offer an opportunity for growth. Growth in the sense that we need to face our frustration and let our partner know our feelings. We must then talk to our loved ones and let them know how they can annoy us. The opportunity to talk gives both of us the chance to hear each side. Our loved ones might have valid reasons, too, for their works and deeds; and help dismiss our negative impression that they are just insensitive and irresponsible.
Couple Goals tames annoyance
Couple Goals: On the road with good company
That perhaps must be the couple goals of individuals in a relationship – understand each other and maintain a healthy relationship. The very same goal international psychologist and relationship therapist Lissy Puno wishes to impart in her newest book “Couple Goals.”
In “Couple Goals,” the best selling author encourages readers to “[tweetshareinline tweet=”enjoy the free fall” username=”IfZgcz8ZKo14VSCu3y8ejhrBGaCG*R!N:1:0″]” but “[tweetshareinline tweet=”don’t fall in love for the wrong reasons” username=”IfZgcz8ZKo14VSCu3y8ejhrBGaCG*R!N:1:0″]” at the beginning of relationships. There are a lot of spaces in the book, too, where one can journal experiences and moments. I remember writing down all those kilig moments when I first entered a relationship, and Ms. Puno’s Couple Goals is one perfect book to do that journaling.
Couple Goals starts with YOU
More than the advice for new couples, Ms. Puno also discussed the importance of self-love. That it is essential to [tweetshareinline tweet=”prioritize self-love before extending love to another person” username=”IfZgcz8ZKo14VSCu3y8ejhrBGaCG*R!N:1:0″]. Ms. Puno stressed that “when you know yourself more, you will know what you need and can make a better choice on the type of person who can be a partner to you.”
How about you? How would you know who the right one is? How does lifetime commitment work? As Ms. Puno describes, it all boils down to getting to know yourself.
Come! Together, let us invest in getting to know more about ourselves and eventually, our significant ones. Grab a copy now of Lissy Puno’s Couple Goals. It is available in National Book Store branches nationwide and online.
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Ang nice na man ng book na to ^_^ sige Momi, hahanapin ko to sa NBS pag pupunta kami ng Davao this April. ^_^ Anyways, almost everyday, irritated ako kay hubby. panu na man po kasi, I always wake up at 5:30 am to pray and then I pump milk habang tulog pa si baby. Then pag nagising na si Baby, I wake up my husband to look after her while I am pumping. Pag gising kasi si baby, maya maya magsasawa na yan at iiyak. Pero yung hubby ko, grabe ang hirap gisingin. ako na lang ung kumukuha kay baby. Hinahawakan ko sya sa kaliwang kamay ko while pumping sa kabila. heto pa Momi, everyday late ako sa office and I blame him for that. Ayoko kasi talagang malate ;( pero kasi si hubby, late na magising, late pa maligo, tos ang tagal pang maligo, 7:45 na syang natatapos maligo, kaya ayun, pinapamadali kong magbihis. May mga times din Momi na sa ofis na kami kumakain. Always ko na man syang nireremind eh pero hindi talaga sya makonsensya.
nung nagwowork kami parehas, may mga times din na late kami dahil sa bagal kumilos ng isa sa amin. kahit anong inis mo or pagmamakaawa mo, wala pa ring chances. sa case ninyo, i pray na makita nya ang importance ng maaga at mabilis na preparation. sabi nga nila, hope isna good thing and no good thing ever dies. so i am hoping may way pa para magbago habang may buhay.
Torn between wanting to read the book because I love reading and curious what’s more inside AND not wanting to read it because it talks about couples, partners and relationships which I….. dont….. have. Hehe
My relationship failed.. not that I don’t know myself. It failed because I trusted the wrong person. And maybe because I did not listened to my instincts. Yung akala mo kilala mo na yung tao for the longest time, pero hindi pa pala. I have discovered that he is a person full of lies. Parang naka-tattoo sa skeletal system nya yung word na “sinungaling”. Hindi mo na mabubura. Yun pa mandin pinaka ayaw ko sa isang nilalang, yung sinungaling, na 10000000% aware sya na ayaw ko yun. Pero yun talaga yung habit nyang gawin. So, here I am, with a failed relationship… BUT…. may malaking BUT… BUT blessed with an amazing son.
Talking about knowing oneself. Alam ko na hindi ako magsusurvive sa paligid ng isang sinungaling. Its a dead-end relationship for me.
i also hate sinungaling na tao. alam na alam ng mga anak ko yan dahil lagi kong sinasabi sa kanila na wag na wag kayong magsisinungaling. alagaan ang trust.
anyway, hope you will find it in your heart to forgive and eventually forget the hurt. it is only through forgiveness that you can free your heart from the pain.
Oo nga momi Berlin eh. But I can forgive but surely will never forget.
Annoyance is sign of comfort. Hhmm.. makes sense. Nice perspective on the annoyance we all have for the hubbies. Hahaha!
or this is what you call, seeing the silver lining re annoyance. ehehe