The boys went home early yesterday as it was their third mastery examinations. Usually, when they get home, the first thing I would ask is: “How’s school?”
That day, before I could deliver my usual greetings, big Bunso said with great confidence, “The exams were easy. I know I have perfected the three subjects.”
That was also what he told me last month when I asked him about their second periodical exams. “I could perfect Science. I have two mistakes in Computer. HELE was easy, too,” was what he said to me. And indeed he was right. We have seen his test results and also his report card. His grades improved a lot.
That’s my boy! At a very young age, he has self confidence. He also very well know where he failed and what to do to improve on that failure. Perhaps, his self esteem comes from the love and trust we shower him everyday. He is very much aware that his family loves him, thus he could be himself.
I have read many times from different books that self- esteem comes from feeling loved. The love I must have been showing to my two other big boys aren’t enough to push them and believe they can. I could see the confidence in them but that self-esteem to truly believe in themselves is too little that they tend to have a much less up-front attitude.
I must reexamine how I treat my boys. It isn’t too late to change and be the loving mother they deserve and truly need.
Thank you, Lord, for this realization.